Don’t Be Dominated, Dismayed or Discouraged By Difficult People

The value of learning to give and receive love is not limited to the search for romantic companionship. Development of the ability to be loving, and also receptive to love, in every possible moment is the foundation for happiness in all areas of life.

After all, we are all interacting with hundreds, if not thousands, of people every year, in a mind-boggling array of situations! What if the worst of those encounters could be made easier… and even loving?


Whether in a professional setting or at the grocery store, we are constantly meeting new people, with different backgrounds, different beliefs and different ways of communicating. Unfortunately, many people can prove to be “difficult” more often than we might like. They may be unpleasant, unkind, or just plain mean.

While it may be tempting to speak your mind and be just as unpleasant and unkind back to them, there are far more effective ways to respond. If you can master them, you get to not just cope, but actually create win-win situations out of what may seem like hopelessly unpleasant interactions.

Here are some tips on how you can deal with the difficult people you encounter:

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Feel Defeated? Here’s How To Keep Going! (Part 2)

So let’s say you took my suggestion in my last blog post, and have been using the practice of envisioning what you want, and how it will feel to have it, in great detail. You’ve seen how it can motivate you to stay the course when you think you’d rather quit. It really helps to keep inspiring yourself, right?


Where you used to feel like Sisyphus faced with the hopeless task of pushing that boulder up that impossible hill, now you can picture yourself in the dip between mountain peaks. And you can see that the next upward slope will lead you to the pinnacle if you just choose to keep climbing.

“Ok,” you say, “I do feel inspired all right. But how do I find the strength to keep climbing?” Great question – and the answer is not some “universal truth” out there, some magic pill or secret mantra that will work for everyone. Each one of us has to find out what it takes for US to stay committed through the tough times until we achieve our goals.

How do you dig deep inside for the inspiration to keep yourself from giving up? If you’re not sure, or you know you don’t have any way of doing that right now, here are two more mindset practices you can use to motivate yourself to take the next step:
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Feel Defeated? Here’s How To Keep Going! (Part 1 of 2)

There is a saying that goes ‘If you’re going through hell – keep going.”


It sounds strange – I mean, who would choose to continue to suffer rather than quit and alleviate the pain?

But implicit in the saying is the idea that a very determined person would choose to keep going through hell, in order to come out the other side and achieve the result they want. That person might declare, “If that’s what it takes, then that’s what I’m gonna do – ‘cause nothing’s gonna stop me!

Right now you may be thinking, “But that’s not me!” I would never choose to suffer if I know I can wave a white flag and bail out!”

That’s a very honest and understandable reaction to facing some hardship you could avoid. But surrendering could also mean giving up on a dream that really matters to you! Is that what you really want, to sell yourself out just to avoid being uncomfortable for a while?

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