Feel Defeated? Here’s How To Keep Going! (Part 1 of 2)

There is a saying that goes ‘If you’re going through hell – keep going.”


It sounds strange – I mean, who would choose to continue to suffer rather than quit and alleviate the pain?

But implicit in the saying is the idea that a very determined person would choose to keep going through hell, in order to come out the other side and achieve the result they want. That person might declare, “If that’s what it takes, then that’s what I’m gonna do – ‘cause nothing’s gonna stop me!

Right now you may be thinking, “But that’s not me!” I would never choose to suffer if I know I can wave a white flag and bail out!”

That’s a very honest and understandable reaction to facing some hardship you could avoid. But surrendering could also mean giving up on a dream that really matters to you! Is that what you really want, to sell yourself out just to avoid being uncomfortable for a while?

Not only that but, since by definition our ideas of what’s “hellish” tend to be about life lessons we need to learn (as I explain in my book, “Before You Love Again”), if you don’t face it now that same “hell” is sure to resurface later. And given the chance to come back around, the same challenge can be even more hellish the next time.

It’s important to understand that the reason we want to bail when something feels like “hell” to us is that we think it’s going to continue to be that way, or even get worse. It’s a convenient “little white lie” we tell ourselves in order to justify turning and running the other way.

All it takes to find the courage to move through the “hell” of a given situation is this shift in perspective: If something feels hellish, realize that you are already in the worst part of that experience, and therefore it can only get better from there!

Remember, YOU always have the power to decide what you think. So I invite you to use the following first powerful mindset practice the next time you feel like running away from a challenge in your life:


  • ENVISION – At times life can seem so bleak that it’s almost impossible to see any light amid the darkness. Maybe you have all kinds of “proof” that things you’ve tried in the past to pull yourself out of a tough spot just didn’t work. Maybe negative people around you reinforced that idea by being pessimistic about how nothing works out in their lives either. If you can throw out all of that “evidence” and just envision the end result you want, you will keep moving closer to making it a reality. See it clearly: what does the end of your path look like? How does it feel to be there enjoying your success? These are the thoughts that will inevitably shine the light of new insights and help you discover ideas for how to achieve your goal – ideas that cannot come forth when you are focused only on the appearance of darkness.

Next week I’ll add two more mindset practices that will help you magnify your success even more!

In the meantime, what are your challenges in keeping focused only on your desired outcomes, and not on the obstacles in the way? Do you have an example of a time when envisioning made the difference in reaching a goal? Share it in a comment below!

For many more tools like this one that can help you navigate your path toward love and life success, get a copy of my new book “Before You Love Again.” It teaches a truly unique combination of mindset-adjustment techniques designed to give you the power to choose what you think, and how you feel, about every area of your life.

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